SACRED SELF CARE by Jill Urwin

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In a time where the calling has never been stronger to protect Mother Nature and to speak for those who cannot always be heard, it is also a time where we also need to bring back the art of sacred self care. It goes without saying….how can you do your best work for the planet and for others if you don’t take the time to look after yourself, listen inward and celebrate every cell in your own body! To celebrate the launch of her new book, we caught up with our dear friend, Shamanic energy practitioner and womb healer Chloe Isidora to find out how she works sacred rituals into her daily life.

What does 'Sacred Self Care' mean to you? 

Sacred self-care means to me, taking the most exquisite care of myself as possible being my own best friend, tenderly caring for my body, my mind, my emotional well-being and my connection to spirit. I created this book to share how rituals and ceremonies can bring you into your heart space, anchor self-love and to practice living from a place of self compassion.

Many people would say they don’t have time for daily ‘Sacred Self Care’ - can you explain why everyone should and can make time for it? 

This is one of my favourite things when people say "they don’t have time”, the joy of what I have shared in my book and my Sacred self-care practises is that you can actually turn everyday mundane tasks into a magic moments, it just requires a shift of perspective and setting an intention, it is a small but radical shift. For example, we drink water and eat food every day, the simple act of blessing your water and meal can bring reverence and transforms the everyday activity into a sacred moment and the great news is that it you are doing it anyway so you do have time! 


Rituals and ceremonies come up a lot when talking about self care - how would you explain the difference between a ritual and a ceremony? 

A ritual tends to be something that is repetitive. If you take a habitual action like brushing your teeth, you can turn that into a ritual with your intention and coming from a place of the heart. One of my favourite daily rituals is a shower cleansing and blessing for my day ahead.

A ceremony tends to be more of an event, this one you will want to dedicate additional time to, they often involving other people. For example a full moon ceremony, winter / summer solstice its often around an auspicious date. The beauty is that they work perfectly in harmony together and separately! 


What is the importance of creating a Sacred Space? 

Often the outside world can be busy and chaotic place, when we create a sacred space we are opening a tranquil environment where the busyness can drop away and we have an opportunity to connect to spirit, receive guidance and attune to our hearts. Its pure magic! 

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Can you give us a sneak peak into your book and let us in on one of your favourite self care rituals?

I’ll share my daily shower ritual! Its definitely a favourite and super simple to put into practice…. 

Showering in Golden Light Energy hygiene is a big one for me. We often spend our days in busy environments, picking up on other people’s energy, thoughts and feelings. This can often shape how we feel and, in the worst-case scenario, create heaviness and sadness. This energy is invisible to the eye, but can still have a profound effect on our day-to-day wellbeing. It can also be dealt with very quickly. This shower ritual is something I do every morning or evening without even having to think about it. The purpose is to cleanse and clear your energy body from any dense, heavy energies you have picked up and to fill you with rejuvenating, restorative light.

Begin by getting into the shower and turning on the water. Close your eyes, invite your body to soften and take three long, deep breaths. Consciously choose to connect to the energy of the water. Notice how your body reacts. In your own way, give thanks to the water, acknowledging that she is sacred, always taking the path of least resistance, that she washes, cleanses and purifies, that “water is life”. Offer an internal prayer along the lines of: “Dear Sacred Waters, thank you for cleansing, clearing and purifying me from any energies that are not aligned to my highest good, so I may start my day fresh and clear.”

Experience any heaviness falling away from your body and being washed down the plughole. Once you feel a sense of emptiness and letting go, visualize golden

liquid light washing your whole body and filling up every cell of your being. Offer a prayer:

“Thank you for filling me with golden liquid light.”

Repeat front and back.

As you leave the shower, imagine a golden orb of light surrounding you.

IT TAKES GUTS by cheryl stephenson

CRYSTALS AND A HEALTHY DIGESTION

We were invited to bring our signature sprinkling of crystal magic to a special supper club event hosted by Renew Life and Harley Street nutritionist Rosemary Ferguson at The Hoxton Hotel. Our very own Jill Urwin spoke about crystals and how they affect our gut, and what we can do to harness their powerful vibes for a healthy digestion.

Following an energising breathwork session led by Rebecca Dennis we sat down for a tasty three course meal created to promote a balanced gut and learnt all about the power of crystals to positively affect our health.

Here’s Jill’s top 5 crystals for a healthy gut…

SMOKY QUARTZ - Balancing Act 

What is it?

Smoky quartz is the perfect grounding stone to bring balance to our lives - emotionally and physically. It brings harmony by flushing out what’s no longer needed, detoxifying our body and mind, and protecting us from negative inputs.

How can it help my gut?

It’s useful for removing toxins and excess fluids in the body and for stimulating the digestive system. So it’s perfect for bloatedness, cramps and abdominal pain. It’s also associated to the emotions we carry in our stomachs, helping to clear the fogginess to we can tap into our gut instinct. 

 Where should I keep it? 

To help cleanse the digestive system of toxins, you can charge your drinking water with a cleansed smoky quartz tumblestone, which helps to target the stomach directly. 

How should I meditate with it? 

Cleanse blockages from your root chakra upwards by placing a piece of smoky quartz under your bare feet, between you and Mother Earth. Focusing on the stone, visualise the crystalline energy flowing up through your feet as you breathe through 10 minutes of stillness. 

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EMERALD – Love is the Answer

 What is it?

Emerald is one of the most strengthening stones for the heart chakra. It allows us to release what’s no longer serving us so we can be open to receiving and giving love on all levels. The perfect companion for daily self-care routines.

How can it help my gut?

Emerald can help to target heartburn and stomach pains associated with indigestion. By powering up the heart chakra it can hep to cover up pain and uneasiness. 

Where should I keep it? 

To target pain before it hits, it’s good to keep emerald in the kitchen where you’re preparing food, or near you when you eat.  It’s also perfect to wear as a necklace, making direct contact with your heart. 

 How should I meditate with it? 

Lie on your back and place the Emerald on your heart or wherever your feel discomfort. Close your eyes and with each breath visualise the crystalline energy flowing though your heart, then down and out through your toes. Focus on the weight of the stone as you breathe through the stillness.  

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CITRINE – Gut Instinct

What is it?

Citrine is associated with happiness, abundance and success. It energises the solar plexus which is where we store all our emotions, feelings, and anxiety. That gut instinct or ‘feeling sick to the stomach’ is a key indicator of an unhappy solar plexus, which can manifest itself physically.

How can it help my gut?

It specifically targets issues associated with the liver, thyroid and kidneys, such as ulcers or reactions from food disorders. It’s extremely cleansing so it can help to flush out toxins.

 Where should I keep it? 

In your pocket, handbag or for more painful stomach issues in your water bottle. It’s good to have around us all the time.

 How should I meditate with it? 

Hold the stone in the palm of your left hand. Our left hand represents letting go. Closing your eyes, brething through he present moment, and keeping your feet flat on the ground, ask the citrine to help you let go of everything that no longer serves you in your gut – letting go of emotional baggage, toxins, worries, and pain.

 

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TIGERS EYE – Give me strength 

 What is it?

Tigers is the best friend we always want by our side. Our rock. When we need strength, courage and wisdom, this is the stone to turn to.  It’s the perfect stone to give us a boost when we’re losing hope or willpower. 

How can it help my gut?

It’s great for helping with stomach pain, particularly cramps related to IBS or menstrual cycles. 

 Where should I keep it? 

It’s good to help target pain, so keep a small piece with you so you’re not caught off guard. 

 How should I meditate with it? 

Hold the stone on the area of pain, with your feet flat on the ground, and breathe through the stillness for 10 minutes. With each breath, visualise the crystalline energy showering your area of pain with a yellow light, soothing the pain and inflammation. 

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SODALITE – Know Your Truth     

What is it?

Sodalite is an ideal stone to help us understand ourselves better. It helps us tap into our inner truth, communicate better, and inspires inner examination, and connection.  Targeting our throat chakra, this stone is the perfect stabiliser of emotions.

 How can it help my gut?

It targets the thyroid, balances and stabilises metabolism and boosts the immune system, which all in turn helps with digestive disorders.  It can also help us to recognise issues and communicate them as necessary.

 Where should I keep it? 

Either wear it in a necklace, or keep a small piece in you bra, meaning it’s close to your throat. 

 How should I meditate with it? 

Holding your hands in front of your mouth in prayer position, with the sodalite between your palms, take deep breaths in through your nose and out through your mouth. Visualise the blue crystalline energy flowing though your nose and down through your throat, deep into your stomach. Hold it there, and then release. Repeat this for several minutes, concentrating on your breathing.

 

WISHCRAFT - SHAUNA CUMMINS by cheryl stephenson

HYPNOSIS @ SLC

Usually found making magic at the Maha Rose in NYC, we could not be more excited to welcome back Shauna Cummins this February. Shauna, AKA The Wishcraft, AKA our hypnosis guru and manifesting queen, will be hosting a very special series of mesmerising events, hypnosis trainings and one to one sessions.
 
We checked in with our bewitching beauty to find out more about what to expect whilst she's here as well as as how everyone can use hypnosis as a tool for personal transformation. 

1. Let’s start from the top! How did you first discover hypnosis?

I first discovered hypnosis as a healing modality second hand when my sister was in high school, when my sister went to a hypnotist to overcome a difficult personal issue she was going through and I remember it only took one session for her to find resolution with it.  It was sort of amazing!  It stuck in my head as mysterious and potentially powerful experience from that point on, although admittedly I did not quite know what it was, was scared of it on some level and sort of believed that it was like the movies where someone could make you cluck like a chicken or rob a bank. I later fought out a hypnotist while on a healing journey recovering from burnout after years of working in fashion and publishing a magazine. It helped me heal issues with body dysmorphia and gave me a whole new perspective on healing level, it’s not an overstatement to say it changed my life. 

 2. There’s understandably a lot of mystery surrounding hypnosis, can you break down a few of these barriers for us and explain how it can be used as an everyday tool for change and transformation?

Absolutely,  as I mentioned I had some of those same misconceptions myself.  In fact the first time I went for my own session,  I was sure I was going to find out some horrible repressed memory and I would never be the same.  Which of course is not how it works at all. That was more a result of years of catholic guilt than anything else. Hypnosis refers to a relaxed yet focused state of awareness, a sort of light trance state where the conscious mind is relaxed and subconscious mind is more receptive. Trance states are naturally occurring and happen often, multiple times a day.  Watching a movie, driving on the highway, in an Instagram rabbit hole.  In that state everyone is naturally more suggestible and its an ideal time to influence yourself positively.  In fact advertising, political speeches, general media takes advantage of this state to influence us,  why wouldn't we use it for our own benefit?  We now know a lot more about the brain than ever before and thanks to neuroplasticity (the understanding that the brain can change and can create new neural networks and patterns with practice) it's now proven that we are capable of changing our though patterns and behaviours more than we ever thought possible.  We can essentially use our brain like a muscle  exercising and creating new neural networks and associations.  Changing out thoughts and changing the way we experience the world. 

3. Is there any reason we should be fearful of hypnosis as a practice?

 All hypnosis is self hypnosis,  at least that's what hypnotists say.  Truthfully it's an empowering tool to increase self awareness and learn how to better collaborate with your mind,  I think self-hypnosis should be taught in primary schools.  This way we are better equipped to make decisions in the world and not be so easily mass hypnotized by technology and advertising among other things.  However,  when working with a practitioner one-on-one its important that you feel a safe connection just as you would with any other healing or therapeutic modality. 

 4. Not only have you received board certification through the National Guild of Hypnotists, but you’re the founder of The Wishcraft: Self Hypnosis for Manifestation Method and The founder and director of The Divine Feminine School of Hypnosis Certification Program. Please tell us more!

 Sure!  Yes, thanks for asking.  The Divinine Feminine School of Hypnosis is a school of thought and a hypnosis certification training program that I launched this fall.  It reclaims the history of Hypnosis through the philosophy of the divine feminine and as the 'medicine of the imagination' an inherently non-linear way of using your own imagination to facilitate healing on an unconscious level working in a collaborative and empathic manner with yourself. Sourcing the earliest representation of Hypnosis in the sleeping temples of ancient Egypt and updating it with proven studies from modern neuroscience that support the wide range of therapeutic benefits.   

The one day training will be an intro to the 200 hr training that I'll be offering in NYC in March- May and hopefully in London this summer/ fall.

If you're a healer or helper, interested in hypnosis, the divine feminine healing and possibly becoming a hypnotist this is a great deep dive intro.  

 Wishcraft is my way of teaching self-hypnosis for manifestation, Inspired by loving kindness meditation practices and the ancient Germanic and Celtic traditions of wishing well. If you are feeling ready to make a change or need helping unblocking negative energy this is a big love boost into helping your mind work with your wishes to come true! 

5. Whilst you’re here you’ll be offering 3 x types of 121 sessions. Can you tell us a bit more about each one to help us choose!

Wishcraft session is great if you've never experienced hypnosis and if you need some motivation or insight on the next steps of your life. This session works with intuition building exercises, self-hypnosis and trance to help bring your wishes into alignment with your energy into action.

Hypnosis can be applied to a specific issue that you’d like help shifting and a way to gain deeper awareness. It can also be used to have a general shift in confidence and self worth.  

Past life Regression is best when you have deep intuitive calling to connect to ancestors or past lives in order to help move forward in this life.  Disclaimer: it's almost never what you expect!  But most often very helpful and I do recommend having experience with hypnosis first. 

6. Can you tell us a bit more about how we might expect to feel after a 121 session with you?

  It's sort of like a mind massage, a bit tranced out and relaxed,  I recommend journaling taking a bath and sleeping after the session. 

7. Do you have a hypnotist heroine?

 Absolutely, my teacher Melissa Tiers.  She's the Queen of neuroplasticity and hypnosis,  In Fact she wrote a great book on it "Keeping the Brain in Mind" and has been an incredible mentor to me, teaching the power of intention in healing and the importance of being true to yourself. 

 8. Do you have a daily ritual you can share with us? 

I have a little holy water shrine to Mother Mary by my door and I thank a whole bunch if things and I make 3 wishes before I leave my house.  Puts me in a fine frame of mind :) 

 9. Can you let us in to a secret? Tell us something we don’t know about hypnosis!

Hmm... it was used to control and subjugate 'hysterical' women under the guise of medical research during the late 1800's. All the more important to reclaim its divine feminine healing roots! 

ECLIPSE SEASON by cheryl stephenson

What does our resident Astrologer, Francesca oddie have to say about the upcoming Eclipse season? ….


”There are between four and six eclipses every year and the next few weeks bring us three of these power points! The definition of eclipse is, to dim or conceal; to render invisible by an elimination of light.  This solar eclipse will take place at 01.29 GMT and is at 15 degrees of Capricorn, the moon will be partially blocking out the light of the sun and both these ‘planets’ will be sandwiched between Saturn and Pluto.  

What does this mean for us?”

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“In short, an eclipse is a reset.  When my old computer had been overloaded with photographs, several Facebook tabs and various unfinished essays, I used to just remove the battery and reload my laptop later on.  Removing the energy source enabled the computer to refresh and work more efficiently… until one day it refused to turn on again.  This is a metaphor for when an eclipse temporarily removes the solar energy in your natal chart; it will refresh what can be boosted but is also linked to endings and finality.  An eclipse is an opportunity to clarify an area of your life.

This eclipse is at the south node and is linked with releasing old habits but also, a new moon is a super potent time to manifest desires and plant seeds of intention.   A new moon in Capricorn means we can focus on manifesting structures, plans and goals, though we need to release the need to focus only on work and be a busy fool. Dreaming of creating a work-life balance that celebrates both ambition and holidays where you don’t check your emails at all for seven days is one idea for your list! There is a time and place for everything, trust in the seasons of your life.

I hope you take this mega opportunity to focus on your goals and if you want to learn more about how your chart is structured then stay tuned… we have some exciting workshop news coming up soon!”


In the meanwhile we are super excited to have these bad boys on our online shop!

30 MIN ASTROLOGY READING GIFT VOUCHERS

Astrology readings are here to help us work with natural cycles, understand ourselves and illuminate.

With only a few details, Francesca can prepare your charts in advance and is ready to talk everything through with you for 30 minutes via Zoom call.  

What do we need?

  • Date of birth

  • Time of birth

  • Place of birth


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About Francesca

I’m a passionate (obsessive) astrologer and I think that astrology is a fascinating science. My quest is to present the subject simply and to enable people to comprehend the scientific roots of astrology. My name is Francesca and some people say that I’m frank.

Thank you so much everyone who has already shared their stories with me, every chart still astounds me with its discreet revelations.

ENDO SISTERS UNITE! by cheryl stephenson

 

YOUR TIME TO THRIVE WITH ENDOMETRIOSIS

 

Ahead of their Endo Sharing Circle session with us, we caught up with hosts Jess and Vickie over a cuppa to get the story on how a little SLC magic brought the pair together to work on health condition that affects them both, and many others like them.

Dealing with pain, even via more conventional means using prescribed painkillers, can be a physically and mentally debilitating experience. When there’s no known cure and the symptoms can vary widely from case to case, treatment can feel like a game of chance that can often miss the mark and still not deal with the emotional side-affects that dealing with long-term pain can cause.

 

 

 

This Endolife founder, Jessica Duffin and Natural Rhythmic Healer, Vickie Williams, met at a She’s Lost Control session, got chatting and discovered that they were both living day to day with a condition known as Endometriosis (or Endo for short).

“Vickie and I have a alternative way of dealing with Endo to the norm” Jessica told us recently, “and it can be quite isolating because family and friends can think you're being hippie or extreme. Meeting Vickie was like finding my people (or person!) and we had a really long chat about our stories, especially as Vickie had quite serious Endo issues going on at the time.“

As they chatted, they began thinking of ways they could support others together and asked us whether we’d be interested in hosting a support workshop with us, “I remember leaving SLC that day feeling pretty high on love and support!”

Considering the fact that Endometriosis affects 1 in 10 (mainly women) worldwide there’s a staggering lack of awareness about the condition or treatment available. In the UK alone it affects 1.5 million women, but gets much less funding than conditions with similar numbers of diagnosed conditions. Essentially, Endo is a common condition where tissue that behaves like the lining of the womb (endometrium) is found in other parts of the body. It can appear in many different places, including the ovaries, fallopian tubes, inside the tummy, and in or around the bladder or bowel.

It can cause chronic fatigue and pain, depression, anxiety, heavy bleeding, IBS symptoms, urinary tract issues, hormonal imbalances, infertility, painful sex, allergies and so much more. For many sufferers it can feel like a bit of a never-ending list!

 

 

 

“Endo can seem impossible to live with,” Jessica explains, “but people are making progress and change with diet, alternative therapies and self-care, all over the world people are taking back control of their bodies with different methods that suit them. It's not an easy disease to live with, in fact, it's incredibly hard, but through support, information and connecting to our bodies again, we're learning new ways to live happier and healthier lives even with this condition.“

 

 

With their forthcoming Endo Sharing Circle at She’s Lost Control, Jessica and Vickie will host an empowering, caring and supportive session for those of you with the condition in order to relax and discover new methods of managing symptoms as well as share stories in an environment where you won’t feel that have to struggle to be acknowledged, believed or understood. 

It’s an opportunity for suffers to find comfort and be held by others who share similar stories, so this time we do stress that this session is only open to those diagnosed with Endometriosis – though we’re hoping to host future sessions for those with and without to broaden awareness and hopefully focus some much needed attention on the condition!

We have added a special friends discount to the session, so it really is a case of Endo Sisters unite! 

For those of you heading to us for the session, the Hackney Half-Marathon will have wrapped up by the time we start, but roads and transport will be a little more disrupted than normal on your way in. Good excuse to make a day of it, take in the race maybe or a little bite at one of our favourite local’s Grand Howl or Rehab. You can stay up to speed with your route to us at tfl.gov.uk

THE CRYSTAL BOOM AND SPENDING WISELY by Katja Schmutzler

Crystals are everywhere at the moment, right? But how do you know what you’re really buying… is sustainability and ethical practice an issue within the industry?  Our crystal gal Jill takes a look…

Working with the stone cutters in Rajasthan on my most recent trip

Working with the stone cutters in Rajasthan on my most recent trip

This is a question we get asked a lot, consumer trends have changed big time since I started out in the fashion industry 15 years ago.  Gone are the days where consumers blindly buy fast-fashion or throwaway items with little consideration of the source… who made it, how much were they paid, is it fair trade? The power of Millennials and Generation Z has helped us break the silence on equality, fair trade, and transparency. In the world of crystals, transparency is equally as crucial.

Green Apophyllite from Maharashtra, India

Green Apophyllite from Maharashtra, India

So, just so we’re clear, the kinds of crystals we all splash our cash on aren’t in the same league as blood diamonds, precious gemstones and ore mining… far from it in fact. We call it specimen mining, and it generally involves excavating crystals from the rock bed, or collecting loose specimens as by-products from bigger mining projects.  Nevertheless, as with any industry, there are still some who don’t always play by the book, and as specimen mining isn’t regulated we need to be even more vigilant to ensure that our crystals haven’t come into contact with any unethical practices such as child labour, dangerous conditions, or heavy duty explosives.

Dream with your eyes wide open’, Alex Macintosh (Director at Christopher Raeburn)

Back in 2014 when we were launching SLC, we were lucky enough to be mentored by the inspiring Alex Macintosh at the Centre for Sustainable Fashion at London College of Fashion.  Coming from a fast-fashion buying background, this was invaluable experience for me, and his quote has stuck with me throughout the development of SLC and my jewellery line. So that’s precisely what we do with everything we buy. We dream with our eyes wide open.

The small family run mine in Brazil where we source our beautiful amethyst

The small family run mine in Brazil where we source our beautiful amethyst

Mined directly from my home town country, Rogerley mine in County Durham

Mined directly from my home town country, Rogerley mine in County Durham

This means we make it our business to ask the right questions and understand where our crystals come from to the best of our ability. Knowing the source in the crystal industry depends largely on trust and reputation. We don’t work with mines that use huge mine-blasting techniques and try to avoid certain routes to market that lack transparency. It’s our aim to pass this transparency onto our customers.  Smaller, family owned mines or collectors who’ve spent years building up relationships with trusted mines, are our first point of contact. In the past, I’ve travelled around the world to go to the mines and stone cutters in person, but unfortunately that’s not always financially feasible. Being sustainable is as much about financial responsibilities as it is about social and environmental, so we work towards having a positive impact in all three areas.  

Jill mining crystals in US

Jill mining crystals in US

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So, the best way for you to ensure you’re making responsible purchases is to do the same… be careful not to buy imitations and try to buy without too many middlemen from a trusted source. Short of going to the mine itself (which isn’t always that successful when you’re trying to mine yourself…. Look at these photos of one of my attempts at mining… lol!!), you need to trust instinct and reputation. Try not to buy a stone that comes via a country it didn’t originate from… this is when we lose sight of it’s journey. It sounds obvious but it’s not always that easy.  Alongside the loving crystals here at SLC, some of our favourite fellow UK crystal dealers are Crystal Muse and Kacha Stones.

As with most industry’s - be it fashion, food, crystals, technology - full transparency involves huge changes – culturally, socially and financially, it’s not something that will happen over night, but we can all take measures to move towards a more transparent world.

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PREGNANCY AND THE ART OF RELAXATION. by cheryl stephenson

 

Happy Mother’s Day to all you mamas out there!

Are you a mama to be? Well we’re making today about you too… we caught up with Katie Stockdale from Peace Love Birth to find out how she helps couples prepare for a positive birthing experience through the art of relaxation…

 
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Katie Stockdale founded Peace Love Birth after giving birth to her first baby boy Easton, which was a life changing experience for her in more ways than one. In her own words she was ‘shitting it’ when it came to the thought of giving birth, but the hypnobirthing and yoga techniques that she then went on to learn prepared her both mentally and physically for the biggest day of her life. The support and transformation was so positive that she ditched her career in fashion to help more mamas-to-be. We caught up with Katie over a cuppa…

So Katie, tell us a bit about what you teach…

I’m not here to tell you how to give birth, in fact a lot of what I teach is actually unlearning some of the negative beliefs we have picked up around birth. Things that have been working their way into our subconscious from a very early age. 
And besides, your body totally knows how to do it anyway - You could birth your baby in a coma if you needed too. How amazing is that? I’m always in awe of what total bad asses we are!

Wow, it’s incredible what the body’s capable of. A big part of Katie’s work is about building confidence, which is such a big deal for first time mamas. Confidence in our remarkable bodies and the astounding physical feats they are capable of.

It’s totally normal for women to not feel all that confident about giving birth. Perhaps even feel anxious about the prospect or scared. (I was absolutely shitting it in all fairness). Yes I am talking about how we can get something so big out of something so small! Your body grows an entire human from seed for almost 10 months so you can guarantee it’s got a surefire strategy for getting it out.

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So where does the fear stem from?

Fear comes down to a number of reasons…

Firstly are changes, oh my, TONNES of changes. There are hormonal changes, physical changes and emotional changes. The dynamic with your partner might change too. All of these come part and parcel with pregnancy. Change can be hard for us to deal with and can leave us feeling a bit wobbly with a sense of uncertainty about the future.
Secondly there is the way birth is portrayed in the media.  99 times out of 100, what we have ‘experienced’ of birth is what we have seen on a film, One born every minute or Corrie, which usually portray birth as being super dramatic, sensationalising it for entertainment purposes.
Yes dramatic and tense birth do happen, BUT the reality in most births, could actually be quite boring. Lots of cups of tea, some breathing, watching TV and hanging out at home for a few hours - certainly in the first stages anyway. Can’t exactly see that keeping everyone glued to the TV screen now can you?
If you are going to watch those kind of births, then I suggest looking for Hypnobirthing videos on You-tube and seeing what the other side of the coin is like. Yes. Calm, positive births do happen, in fact they happen every day!

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We know you’re not one for sweeping generalisations BUT what do you think would happen the tables were turned and Men were giving birth?

A- ha ha ha ha. Say what?!
B- I do think they would talk more about how good it can be.
(cue sweeping generalisation) I reckon it would be all about the Men who had the best birth and them shouting about it from the rafters.
But girls, that’s not our vibe is it. We tend to adopt a more empathetic stance. If we had a positive birth or enjoyed it (do google orgasmic birth if you get a sec, that shit might blow your mind) Perhaps we feel embarrassed or we don’t want others to feel like we are bragging about it if they didn’t have the birth they wanted. 
So we keep it to ourselves, if that’s the case, so not to upset anyone. The result of this is, it’s mostly the horror stories are shared. Girls we owe it to our fellow sisters to share the good stories! As long as it comes from a place of love then we all absolutely need to hear it. When you sign up to a Calm Birth School Hypnobirthing course with me or any of the other instructors then you get access to a super online support group where couples share positive birth stories for all types of birth - Yes it is possible to have a positive emergency c section.

Lastly and this is a big one. We have forgotten how to relax. The art of totally switching off. Sounds silly but it’s true, and I’m as guilty of this as anyone. We live in a super connected world. Think about the last time you were away from your phone for more than a few hours unless you left it home. Our phone comes to bed with us, we have multiple email accounts, texts, never ending what’s app groups, Instagram hearts and Facebook events popping up all the time.

You might work as hard as I did when I was pregnant, in a super high pressured job, working long hours and you were only ever as good as your Monday sales (which even when they were good, were never good enough!)
There are sleepless nights even before the real pregnancy insomnia kicks in.
You spend your weekend catching up with friends that you never get to see in the week because you work late. Cramming every last minute in your diary full of things to do before the baby comes, like some kind of baby bucket list, because let’s face it, you won’t have a life when then the baby comes right?! 

That’s so true! It’s often hard to remember the last time you did absolutely nothing isn’t it? This must add to more anxiety in the lead up to the birth, how does that effect birth?

Fear and anxiety, although normal can be your worst enemy when you give birth. When we are frightened or stressed, even at a subconscious level. Our bodies go into fight flight or fear mode, releasing adrenaline into the body which tells our brain that it isn’t safe to birth our baby. This can slow or stall the birthing process leading to a longer, more painful labour and contributing to a less positive birthing experience over all.  

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But there’s another way… we hear you say. Staying calm, confident and most importantly relaxed throughout your birth means that your body is able to work efficiently. A big focus of Katie’s pregnancy yoga and hypnobirthing sessions is the art of relaxation. She combines guided relaxations with tailored yoga asanas and blissful Yoga Nidra to help mamas-to-be sink into a deep state of relaxation with their subconscious wide open. This is a great time bring in the techniques of hypnobirthing and work on confidence building affirmations, visualisations and building some positive stories around birth. 

Other than the obvious reasons, why is it so important that we practice this level of relaxation birth in the lead-up and during birth?

When you’re in your natural, calm rest and digest response all your wonderful birthing hormones can flow easily through the body - like Mother natures’ pain relief, easing the sensations (this assuming there are no special circumstances for Mum and baby where they might need an extra helping hand). 

When we are relaxed and calm, oxygenated blood flows around our body and is directed to the centre of the body, to the reproductive organs and the digestive system. Exactly where we want it to be going in pregnancy and birth! The uterus is a BIG muscle and muscles need oxygen to work efficiently. 
It also means that those yummy birthing hormones I mentioned, that will help make our labour more comfortable and can get to work quickly on the day.

And I imagine the baby likes this too?

Yes, relaxation in pregnancy is a great way to connect with your baby and indulge in some pre-natal bonding. When we slow down and withdraw from what is happening in the outside world, we can become more aware of our baby’s movements and this is a great way to start that Mama baby bonding process.

If you’d like to know more about the amazing benefits of relaxation in pregnancy then get in touch, or better still, come along and see for yourself! Katie hosts a regular Monday evening pregnancy yoga class down at SLC and would love to see you there.

Hypnobirthing is for life not just for pregnancy! 

#REVOLUTIONVALENTINES by cheryl stephenson


Join She’s Lost Control and Mama Moon
on a mission to make Valentine’s Day great again!

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We’ve been thinking it’s about time that Valentine's Day had a re-brand, gone are the days of it being all about romance and lovers! We’d like to make it about LOVE in it’s purest form,be that for your brother, your mother, your sister, your BFF, your cat, your dog, your goldfish, yourself, your daughter in law, your son in law, your best co-worker, your yoga teacher, your cousin - you get the idea!

Time to forget cyber space and instead look to the stars to send messages of love. Amidst today's digital world, there's something extra special to be said about receiving an old fashioned letter in the post, right? All you need to do is locate your nearest Letter Love postbox around London where you’ll be able grab some paper to handwrite your letter of love to the universe (aka an anonymous person in need of your words of compassion). Address the envelope to a special person you’d like to receive a Letter Love. SLC and Mama Moon will then sprinkle some magic in the envelope and anonymously send out letters of love across the UK… they’ll let the universe decide who gets which message of love.

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